- Lifelong learning. Keep your mind active and always be gaining wisdom, I don’t know of any clever and successful person who doesn’t read a lot.
- Get what you want by deserving what you want. Want a quality partner and happy marriage for instance, then become someone who deserves such.
- Understand your own competence. Put effort in where you are able and improve where you are lacking, this also helps with humility.
- Consider yourself a survivor. Never waste time thinking as a helpless victim, there is always something you can do to better yourself.
- Learn the big ideas in important disciplines. If your only mental tool is a hammer all problems will start to look like nails, they aren’t.
- Understand what you do. If you don’t understand it then stop doing it.
- Invest in a circle of trust. Trust others and their trust in you appreciates.
- Learn from history. Study others mistakes to avoid making them your self.
- You will suffer blows in life. Self pity is not useful here and will only hold you back.
Charlie Munger is the business partner of multi billionaire Warren Buffet, was a brilliant lawyer who founded the premier law firm of Munger, Tolles and Olsen, he then went into real estate development and then started an investment firm where he generated annual returns of 20%.
Whilst Buffet speaks in dumbed down ways that anybody can understand, i.e. buy stuff when its cheap, Munger has come up with the idea of mental models which further enhance the learning of those who already think about philosophy.
"I think it is undeniably true that the human brain must work in models. The trick is to have your brain work better than the other person’s brain because it understands the most fundamental models: ones that will do most work per unit. If you get into the mental habit of relating what you’re reading to the basic structure of the underlying ideas being demonstrated, you gradually accumulate some wisdom. You’ve got to have models in your head. And you’ve got to array your experience ‑ both vicarious and direct ‑ on this latticework of models. You may have noticed students who just try to remember and pound back what is remembered. Well, they fail in school and in life. You’ve got to hang experience on a latticework of models in your head."
One of my mental models is that ordinary people are scared of success, they don’t want to stand out to make a spectacle of themselves (as they would see it).
Because I understand this, I can use it to make my own life better. I can understand the feelings and use this to aid in positive actions and therefore be more successful.
You have control of your own mind and you alone can determine how you think and feel about things.
I suggest you do the same as me.
Remember that embarrassing thing you did?
Nobody else does.
Self confidence boils down to not worrying about what other people think about you.
In psychology there is the research to prove that people think they are noticed much more than they really are. This is termed the “Spotlight Effect”. But the reality is you aren’t in a spotlight, other people are not looking at you, they have their own problems and are worrying about what you and others think about them.
If you don ‘t immediately agree with me ask yourself this question. How much time do you spend thinking about other people when they aren’t standing in front of you? Very little, I bet.
So fake it till you make it as the american saying goes. Other people will take what you say and do at face value.
So act as if you are full of self confidence, other people will assume that is who you are.
And sooner or later you will no longer have to act, it will become part of your personality.
Emily Abbott is very dedicated and into crossfit and has clearly spent a lot of time at the gym and money on steroids building up her body.
That is her choice and I am happy about that she has the opportunity to follow her choice.
What I find extremely funny is that Emily Abbott also wants other people to be as enthusiastic about her choice as she is.
She is moaning that she can’t get a date because men no longer find her attractive.
She can’t handle the rejection that men don’t find her attractive because of her masculine body.
This is what she looks like.
She thinks that she is entitled to date a quality man but quite frankly, quality men have the pick of sweet feminine women and have no need to date down with a muscly steroid freak.
She’s probably on the edge of a mental disorder over her appearance and this is also likely to make her unpleasant to be around.
Life is full of choices like this, should I keep up with the Jones’ or save for a happy retirement?
Should I pursue a career that pays well or expect poverty and do something I am interested in?
Should I build my body and grow old alone with my cats or attract a quality partner by being feminine and having a nice personality?
Choices, choices everywhere.
Quality men will also be turned off by the tattoos as well.
The best way to get a quality date is to be worthy of a quality date.
In fact the best way to get anything is to be worthy of it.
Intellectual Yet Idiot: semi-erudite bureaucrat who thinks he is an erudite; pathologizes others for doing things he doesn’t understand not realizing it is his understanding that may be limited; imparts normative ideas to others: thinks people should act according to their best interests *and* he knows their interests, particularly if they are uneducated “red necks” or English non-crisp-vowel class.
More socially: subscribes to the New Yorker; never curses on twitter; speaks of “equality of races” and “economic equality” but never went out drinking with a minority cab driver; has considered voting for Tony Blair; has attended more than 1 TEDx talks and watched more than 2 TED talks; will vote for Hillary Monsanto-Malmaison because she seems electable; has The Black Swan on his shelves but mistakes absence of evidence for evidence of absence; is member of a club to get traveling privileges; if social scientist uses statistics without knowing how they are derived; when in the UK goes to literary festivals; drinks red wine with steak (never white); used to believe that fat was harmful and has now completely reversed; takes statins because his doctor told him so; fails to understand ergodicity and when explained forgets about it soon later; doesn’t use Yiddish words; studies grammar before speaking a language; has a cousin who worked with someone who knows the Queen; has never read Frederic Dard, Michael Oakeshot, John Gray, or Joseph De Maistre; has never gotten drunk with Russians and went breaking glasses; doesn’t know the difference between Hecate and Hecuba; doesn’t know that there is no difference between “pseudointellectual” and “intellectual”; has mentioned quantum mechanics at least twice in the past 5 years; knows at any point in time what his words or actions are doing to his reputation.
But a much easier marker: doesn’t deadlift.”
By Nassim Taleb
Taleb is not perfect, but he’s not saying he’s an expert on weightlifting. His heuristic is that these people do not want to be strong in a classical sense. Weak bodies are a proxy for weak minds.
Mike Cernovich is a lawyer, documentary filmmaker and the author of best-selling self help book Gorilla Mindset. His websites have been visited by tens of millions of people and his controversial Twitter page receives over 150 million impressions a month.
This is a great book for changing the way you view and perceive life. It’s written to teach you how to make yourself more successful and improve health through a complete mental mindset shift. It offers a good synthesis of information that’s available from several other sources all in one place and presented in an easy to read format that doesn’t waste the readers time. In a world where lefty lies surround you and men everywhere are being neutered this is the kind of mindset manual you need to create a life worth living.
Millions are trapped in a situation where life just pushes them around, so instead of whining its not fair why not get proactive to actually do something to change your position.
The book comes with exercises to do, and if you aren’t willing to do them then this isn’t for you. But if you are willing then this will open up your life and you will develop the skills and habits necessary to live a life that you are in control of.
Think of Gorilla Mindset as a practical instruction manual that you will reread several times, it is that good. If you need that extra push, or are looking for a way to take your life to the next level, this is a great place to start.
I highly recommend this book. And it is available here.